Working with Me

I specialize in helping adults repair and heal from inner conflict.  If you have inner conflict, you may be highly self-critical, perfectionistic, indecisive, stressed or easily distractible.  It's common to feel "I'm not good enough." Deep down, a part of you is negative toward yourself.  This causes anxiety, stress and depression. If this inner conflict continues over time, it may lead to a sense of confusion about your life's purpose and direction.

There is both a reason for this inner conflict and a solution.  In my years of therapeutic work with clients, I have discovered that self-punishing behaviors are often born out of painful experiences earlier in life.  Because the experiences were so painful, they made a deep imprint.  However, humans have a natural survival instinct. Our behaviors are self-protective in nature. Thus, our tendency is to push these experiences down and bury the pain.  The pain inevitably resurfaces and affects the significant relationships in your life.  You may feel a strain in your relationships with your partner, your children, family, friends and colleagues. 

If you are here it is because your intuition is speaking and you are paying attention. You have awareness that your authentic nature is being suppressed.  I am so glad you found me; I can help you reconnect with your authentic Self. 

I know how it feels to be living out of alignment.  I've experienced the pain of waking up day after day locked in a cage of self-imposed beliefs.  The reason I became a therapist is because everyone deserves to live a life of freedom, joy and fulfillment.  I know it is possible for you to achieve this!

In choosing to work with me, know that we are a team.  We will work collaboratively to explore and process your challenges. My approach is open, honest, transparent, compassionate, supportive and hopeful.  I respect and appreciate the uniqueness of each and every individual.  Therapy is most effective when there is a high level of trust between the client and the therapist; therefore, my number one priority is for you to feel safe when you are with me. 

You can expect our work to challenge you with the intention of facilitating growth.  I have learned firsthand we cannot tamp down our pain without also restricting our joy.  As therapy carries an inherent risk of leading us to feel worse before we feel better, I ask you to thoughtfully consider all of your motivations for engaging in therapy.  Imagine what it would be like to live your life feeling grounded, centered, uninhibited, purposeful, self-directed and most of all, joyful and free.  The time is now to begin your journey.



Denise O'Neil, MPH, MS, LMFT
 Psychotherapy for Individuals - Specializing in Addiction, Anxiety & Relational Trauma
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Denise O'Neil, MPH, MS, LMFT
 Psychotherapy for Individuals
Specializing in Addiction, Anxiety & Relational Trauma

Home     Working with Me     Credentials     Therapy Services     Specialties     Fees    
San Diego Office     Encinitas Office     EMDR


Working with Me

I specialize in helping adults repair and heal from inner conflict.  If you have inner conflict, you may be highly self-critical, perfectionistic, indecisive, stressed or easily distractible.  It's common to feel "I'm not good enough." Deep down, a part of you is negative toward yourself.  This causes anxiety, stress and depression. If this inner conflict continues over time, it may lead to a sense of confusion about your life's purpose and direction.

There is both a reason for this inner conflict and a solution.  In my years of therapeutic work with clients, I have discovered that self-punishing behaviors are often born out of painful experiences earlier in life.  Because the experiences were so painful, they made a deep imprint.  However, humans have a natural survival instinct. Our behaviors are self-protective in nature. Thus, our tendency is to push these experiences down and bury the pain.  The pain inevitably resurfaces and affects the significant relationships in your life.  You may feel a strain in your relationships with your partner, your children, family, friends and colleagues. 

If you are here it is because your intuition is speaking and you are paying attention. You have awareness that your authentic nature is being suppressed.  I am so glad you found me; I can help you reconnect with your authentic Self. 

I know how it feels to be living out of alignment.  I've experienced the pain of waking up day after day locked in a cage of self-imposed beliefs.  The reason I became a therapist is because everyone deserves to live a life of freedom, joy and fulfillment.  I know it is possible for you to achieve this!

In choosing to work with me, know that we are a team.  We will work collaboratively to explore and process your challenges. My approach is open, honest, transparent, compassionate, supportive and hopeful.  I respect and appreciate the uniqueness of each and every individual.  Therapy is most effective when there is a high level of trust between the client and the therapist; therefore, my number one priority is for you to feel safe when you are with me. 

You can expect our work to challenge you with the intention of facilitating growth.  I have learned firsthand we cannot tamp down our pain without also restricting our joy.  As therapy carries an inherent risk of leading us to feel worse before we feel better, I ask you to thoughtfully consider all of your motivations for engaging in therapy.  Imagine what it would be like to live your life feeling grounded, centered, uninhibited, purposeful, self-directed and most of all, joyful and free.  The time is now to begin your journey.